Other than asking outright there aren’t any sure fire ways to know if someone is a swinger. There are a few things you can do to try to discretely find out without being too bold about it.
Open Lifestyles
If you’ve met someone recently and you are able to talk about past relationships, this can be a good clue regarding whether they are a swinger or not. If they talk about having open relationships, or participating in threesomes or other types of alternative sex, they may be open to swinging. Just because someone has experimented though doesn’t meant they are automatically a swinger.
Where You Met
If you met someone on a swingers website, it’s a pretty good indication they are a swinger. However, many people join these sites just to meet others, or they are only mildly interested in the lifestyle. If you are a serious swinger and looking for the same, you should be able to openly ask questions. Find out if they have actually tried swinging by asking them about some of the events or parties they’ve been to. If you still aren’t sure, just flat out ask them what their favorite swinging activity is. If you are honest with the fact that you are only looking for a serious swinger you can avoid a lot of time-wasters.
Just Be Honest
If you are wanting to meet others who are swingers because you want to participate in the lifestyle your best bet is to look at the swinging community. When you meet someone, be honest and upfront about what you are looking for. This way you don’t end up forming a connection with someone who isn’t in to the same thing as you. If you’re open up front, the worst that will happen is the other person will tell you they aren’t interested.