For many people counting their sexual partners is a point of pride, while for others it’s a source of shame. It should be neither. In the modern world it’s not uncommon for someone who is single to rack up a certain number of sexual partners as they search for someone they can settle down with. Others who are more open sexually and participate in lifestyles such as swinging are also going to encounter many people throughout their years. This shouldn’t be a source of pride or shame for anyone. There is also no real need to count sexual partners, with a few exceptions.
Safety First
As long as you are being responsible about your interactions, keeping score is unnecessary. Make sure you are using condoms and dams, don’t participate in risky behavior (such as bareback sex and blood letting), and make sure you are tested every few months. If you follow these precautions you won’t find yourself needing to take count.
STDs
If you end up being diagnosed with an STD, it’s not the end of the world. This happens to the best of people, and can happen even when all precautions are being taken. This is going to be one of the few times you will need to take count, since your past partners will need to be notified. Don’t let this startle you, and just be objective about it when you sit down to make your list. Most people have a few people on their list that they don’t remember, so all you can do is hope that person has been tested and remains safe and responsible.
When couples who are new to the swinging scene, the question of how many times a week to participate will arise. There isn’t a clear cut rule regarding this, but there are some things to consider when you come up with your boundaries.
Available Events
Before you decide on an appropriate number regarding how often you can swing, you should consider what is available in your area. Many swingers clubs only host events on the weekends, or only two or three nights a month. Others will have mixers a few times a week. Parties are usually no more than often than a few times a month and are typically held on weekends. If you are a single man your options for clubs and parties will be more limited, as most clubs only have one or two nights a month where single men are welcomed. Before you set a number of times you want to participate, you should be realistic and find what’s available in your area first.
Experience Levels
For those who are new to swinging, it may seem like a good idea to swing as much as possible in the beginning. Honestly, this isn’t the right approach. You should attend an event just to see what it’s about, and revisit any preconceived notions you may have had. As you
build experience you can increase your visits. Most experienced swingers will only swing a few times a month, and most don’t attend weekly events.
Comfort Levels
The number of times you swing a week is going to depend entirely on your schedule and comfort levels. You’re never going to find a club where they think you are swinging too much, and many swingers only participate in events a few times a year. It’s entirely up to you.
The swinging lifestyle expands across all walks of life. People from all backgrounds participate in the swinging lifestyle. There isn’t really a good stereotypical example, but there are plenty of stereotypes surrounding the lifestyle. Here are a few things that aren’t true of a typical swinger.
Sex Deviants
Many people falsely assume that swingers are nothing more than sexual deviants. The notion that swingers participate in sex with multiple people every night, throw wild parties on the weekends, and even that they drink excessively or do drugs is common among those who have never participated. The truth is, swingers are normal, everyday people who work hard during the day and occasionally participate in parties where they can be open sexually. The only difference between a couple that swings and a couple that doesn’t is that the couple that swings can be completely open and honest with one another regarding their sexual desires.
Clubs and Events
While people who aren’t swingers may go out and enjoy time with one another at a night club, swingers are open and free to enjoy similar activities with a more sexual environment. It may surprise you to find out that many swingers don’t even have sex with others while at clubs and events. A lot of swingers simply go to watch, or just be around other open minded people. For a lot of swingers, the clubs and events are a form of foreplay, serving as a way to warm them up for private activities later. Although many swingers will participate in sexual activity, they always have clear cut rules regarding what is and isn’t allowed between one another, and these rules are considered sacred.