Many people are able to tell you how many sexual partners they’ve had. A lot of people keep count assuming this is the only way to be responsible. But what if you can’t remember all of them? Is it a big deal if you lose count of your past partners?
The Short Answer
The short answer to this question is no. It’s not a big deal if you can’t count all of your past sexual partners, or even remember them all. In today’s world, it’s not uncommon for a single person to rack up enough to lose count. As long as you don’t feel bad about it, it’s not a huge deal.
Safety
As long as you are safe and keep yourself healthy the actual number of sexual partners you’ve had is irrelevant. Always use condoms, and always make sure you are tested every few months. As long as you do this you don’t need to keep a running count of who you’ve slept with.
When it’s an Issue
The only time your number becomes an issue is when you have to notify past sexual partners of an STD. If this happens you will be urged to contact your past sexual partners and let them know so they can get tested. This is why safety is always a concern.
If you feel as though your number is too high, then it may be a good time to stop sleeping around. But it’s a personal decision, and one that only you can make. Do not worry about what others think. It’s no one else’s business. If you are happy and content with your life there is no point in changing it.
For many people counting their sexual partners is a point of pride, while for others it’s a source of shame. It should be neither. In the modern world it’s not uncommon for someone who is single to rack up a certain number of sexual partners as they search for someone they can settle down with. Others who are more open sexually and participate in lifestyles such as swinging are also going to encounter many people throughout their years. This shouldn’t be a source of pride or shame for anyone. There is also no real need to count sexual partners, with a few exceptions.
Safety First
As long as you are being responsible about your interactions, keeping score is unnecessary. Make sure you are using condoms and dams, don’t participate in risky behavior (such as bareback sex and blood letting), and make sure you are tested every few months. If you follow these precautions you won’t find yourself needing to take count.
STDs
If you end up being diagnosed with an STD, it’s not the end of the world. This happens to the best of people, and can happen even when all precautions are being taken. This is going to be one of the few times you will need to take count, since your past partners will need to be notified. Don’t let this startle you, and just be objective about it when you sit down to make your list. Most people have a few people on their list that they don’t remember, so all you can do is hope that person has been tested and remains safe and responsible.
People choose to swing for a variety of different reasons. Many people assume that swingers are just sexual deviants, but this isn’t the case at all. Swingers can have perfectly normal and healthy relationships while having sex with others. So what really makes people want to try this?
Non-Monogamous
For many people monogamy just doesn’t work. This doesn’t make them less capable of maintaining a healthy relationship; it just means they are honest with the fact that sleeping with the same person for the rest of their lives just isn’t going to work. For many of these people swinging is a good solution. They maintain a normal relationship at home, and every now and then go to swingers clubs or events and participate in sexual activity with their partner and others. It’s a way to keep the commitment strong while fulfilling the desires they have.
Alternative Sexual Activities
Many people choose to swing because they have fetishes or desires that aren’t typically accepted in the standard community. Whether it is slave/master relationships or group sex, a swingers community is more open to this and provides an outlet for the fantasies. Not all swingers participate in sex with others.
Community Involvement
It’s nice to feel as though you belong to a community. For those who have fetishes or alternative desires it can be difficult to find a community to fit in to. This is where the swinger’s community fits in for many people. Here they can find others who are open and understand their lifestyle. A lot of people choose to participate in the swinger’s community simply for the camaraderie involved.